If all the romantically tinted connections in your life fall away, what will you miss the most?

Anything you seek to be created, as opposed to open deeper, in your relationship is illusory, disempowered & will result in misery.
Anything you look to find outside of yourself, will never manifest. You are everything already. You hold the seed of All There Is. You hold the spark of God/Goddess inside of you. There is no external. There is merely reflection.
Anything you avoid to take responsibility for externally, will come to bite you in the ass.

Ask yourself..

If all the romantically/sexually tinted connections in your life fall away, what will you miss the most? Where would you feel an emptiness?
What in yourself are you asked to deepen & open into that you’re looking to be created by your partner?
Where are you disempowering any of your sovereignty by looking externally for wisdom, governing or love?

In session with my client, I asked her:

‘If all the romantically/sexually tinted connections in your life fall away, what will you miss the most? Where would you feel an emptiness?’

She closed her eyes. Then answered:

‘To be fully seen.’

She paused

‘I see why you ask this. I need to see, accept & open myself first, don’t I?’

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Our relationships are there to expand who we are, not to create what we are lacking inside of us.

Is it to be validated? – Perhaps you’re asked to heal your inner girl & See her where she hasn’t been before. 
Feeling safe in the world? – Perhaps you’re called to fall in love with structure, to trust your own clarity & direction.
To soften your body? – Perhaps it’s time to lay on the floor, drop the armour, breathe deeply into your belly & receive the penetrative energy of Life in every cell of your being. 
To be opened by his sexual force? – Perhaps you are to awaken your own body’s pleasure & connection to the divine masculine force you hold inside & envelops you at all times, before you can receive Him through a man?

Is it to be affirmed by female attention? – Perhaps you need to go out & f*ck nature more.
To be worshipped? – Perhaps it’s time to stop swiping on Tinder, pick up your sword & pray to the Goddess herself.
To be mothered? – Perhaps you’re called to soften into the most vulnerable corner of your heart & tend to it with Her divine love.
To move through your emotions? – Perhaps you’re asked to allow yourself to break open– & through that liberate - not somewhat control - your woman into her Bigness.

When I examined this question for myself, I answered: Touch. A physical sense of falling back into his frame. & a feeling of having my back – support & reflection.

These qualities in & of itself are beautiful If aware of them not falling into co-dependent tendencies where I look to not enlarge, but create outside of myself.

Don’t be fooled you can take this energy into a relationship & expect it to change. Neediness & leakiness will seep into your relating & come out, sooner or later.

Awareness is what disempowers the hold of our shadows. Embodied action what changes our behavioural patterning, relationship dynamics & eventually, karma.